Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Flirting is harmless...until it isn't

I've witnessed married women flirt with other guys, even with their husbands in the room, and they didn't even bat an eyelash. I've also had a couple experiences where a "taken" guy flirted with me to the point where I felt uncomfortable—too many kisses on my cheek, hugs and pats on my arm. I told you in this post that I get turned on when other girls flirt with my boyfriend, but if he was the one initiating the moves, I'd be pissed! 

I know it's perfectly normal to be attracted to other people, and I'm not delusional enough to think that my boyfriend never gives other girls a second glance from time to time, but the world we live in should not resemble an episode from For the Love of Ray J, people! (P.S. Did anyone see the episode where Luscious gets shit for "smashing" one of Ray J's homies? It was awwwesome. Tom Green was in it too; I suggest you catch the rerun during the weekend, if that's your type of thing). 

I digress. So yeah, I have a few friends who are in really good, solid relationships, but occasionally get upset by their boyfriends' harmless flirting. Guys and girls: Can you weigh in on this subject? Have you ever been hurt by a situation like this? What kind of flirting  do you think is going too far?


  1. My .2 cents

    It's human nature to flirt with the opposite sex even when in a solid committed relationship. If the trust and communication bond is strong within that couple, it really shouldn't be an issue.

    However, most couples do have a little insecurity which is brought to a head by flirting or gazing at another.

  2. I agree, Barbara. However, I can also see how even a secure person who is in a great, caring relationship would get peeved by this. I'm sure I flirt a little, even without realizing it when I'm out with my girlfriends, but I don't think I'd have the desire to with my boyfriend around! Sure, it's possible to be attracted to someone at any moment, but full-on flirting? I don't's hard to say what is acceptable and what's not. What does everyone think?

  3. I don't really think flirting is ever o.k. I'm sure it might be done without realizing it, but I think most of the time people know they are doing it, and I don't think that's cool. I think it's disrespectful to your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. Of course like you said everyone might look at someone else every now and then but I don't think flirting is appropriate. I know what you mean about it being kind of a turn on when a girl flirts with your guy, but overall it just pisses me off, but then again I can be a tad jealous!

  4. I agree, JKW. Was it you that told me your bf's ex was still trying to get back with him and said you weren't good enough? Sorry if it wasn't you, but if it is, are there any updates with that??

  5. Nope (luckily) wasn't me. Don't think I would handle that too well!

  6. Oh, sorry, JKW!, Darn, I always pride myself on my memory...not this time I guess! :(