Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Do you believe in the The Notebook kind of love?

The other day I told my boyfriend that I felt like the only topic of conversation between us lately has been work-related things (ironically, it's hard not to talk work about when you don't have a job), and I was just bummed about it. To make matters worse,  The Notebook was on TV later that night, and I started wondering if love like that really existed?

I love when Noah is like, "I want all of you forever, you and me, every day." That part never gets old. But then he also says, "It's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard. We're going to have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you." Ugh, I die. At least there is some reality mixed into this fairy tale romance. 

Don't get me wrong, the spark in my relationship is still very much a burnin' after almost four years, but I'm realizing more and more that yes, it does take work. Some things aren't as effortless as they used to be, but other things have gotten better through time and being truly comfortable with one another. 

Now, will my boyfriend and I ever make out in the rain? Probably not—I fucking hate the rain. But that doesn't mean that what we have isn't really special, and that's something I need to remember. 

So tell me: Do you believe in The Notebook kind of love? I believe in parts of it—you know, soulmates and all that jazz. And WHO is going to see Dear John next weekend?! Channing, it's been so long since we've talked! Call me. XOXO

11 comments:

  1. The notebook was brutal and I cried like a baby, luckily so did everyone else on the plane. I think it made alzheimers one of my biggest fears. You have mentioned Channing more than once so I figured that I should look him up. I know him now,GI Joe.

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  2. I have a rain fantasy:)

    The Notebook is just one hellofva romance story:) Have you seen "Somewhere in Time"?

    I ball like a baby...everytime.

    B

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  3. uh...I guess I'm the only girl in the world that didn't like The Notebook. I dunno, it just didn't do it for me. thought I think I love the rain about as much as most people love this movie!

    however, I absolutely believe in that kind of love, because (get your barf bags ready), that's how my boyfriend treats me all the time. I've never ever been a "soulmates" kinda girl and I won't go overboard with the gushy details, but I've never felt so connected to someone in my life and I fall in love with him every day. I kinda still don't believe it, but he always makes an effort to show me how much he loves me...I feel like the luckiest girl in the world and I can't imagine my life without him. see, I told you, barf ;)

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  4. I think that's awesome, MYA! Not barf-y at all. I actually don't understand couples who don't have fireworks for each other (even if it's not NB standards). But, everyone is different and want/need different thigns I suppose. I feel that intensely about my bf, but I guess I don't feel like I can compare it to The Notebook. The drama of Noah and Allie not being able to be together for so many years certainly heightens the emotions I think. If I couldn't be with my bf, you betcha I'd be smooching in the rain as much as I hate it! haha

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  5. Our wedding song was "When You Say Nothing At All" b/c the first time C took me to Portobello Road the market was closed. It started to suddenly downpour so we ran under a store's awning and the song came on. He hugged me and we sort of swayed to it. A little cheeseball I know. But I don't feel that sort of magic constantly, though there's at least a few times a week when I still feel like the luckiest girl alive. I love that he can still make me weak in the knees.

    Good relationships honestly do take effort and work. I love when Noah says, "You tell me when I'm being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you're a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time." It just made me laugh, cause yeah, that sounds about right.

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  6. I want to believe in the Notebook kind of love but I can't figure out if it truly exists. I think you hit the nail on the head when you say it takes work each and everyday...

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  7. Aww, what a cute story, Rain! And yes, I love that quote too. It's like everything that comes out of his mouth in that movie is just so damn PERFECT!

    Thomas, it totally exists, maybe just not exactly how it looks in the movie. Do you think you've ever come close to having it?

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  8. I had a first love romance exactly like Allie and Noah had. Im Engaged now to someone else and after watching this movie last night, it's exactly how I feel. I miss my first love, but I love my fiancé.. Things like this make me really confused.

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  9. My fiance is just like Noah from the notebook. Yes men like that do exist! I've been with him for almost 4 years now and he just as nice, if not nicer. He spoils me with love every day and treats me like a princess. And you know what? All girls deserve that!

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  10. @mary I I'm very happy for you! I an engaged to a guy that I love but he cheated on me and everyday I am scared of being hurt again.... But reason what you wrote makes me believe that guys like Noah do exist! Thank you for sharing;)

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  11. i love how the notebook is the one romantic drama that keeps stirring discussion. saw another article that talks about the film from the male point of view. http://www.workingauthor.com/romcoms-and-romdrams-are-ruining-our-love-lives

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