Sunday, February 21, 2010

Hate Sex—apparently you need to try it

I overheard a girl on the subway the other day telling a friend about the fantastic "hate sex" she's having with her ex-boyfriend. Hate sex eh? I kept listening. From what I gathered, it's hard and fast. Cuddling is not involved. Tension=desire. He gets what he wants, she gets what she wants, and bing, bang, boom it's over. Check your feelings at the door.

The girl was so nonchalant about it, she might as well have been talking about what she had for breakfast. It was so Samantha from Sex and the City—I was amazed. Is it ridiculous to admit that I thought she kinda sounded cool? Like, hate sex, no biggie. It reminded me of eighth grade when all the popular girls were smoking cigs and getting felt up, while I just listened to their stories in awe.

So tell me: Who's had this crazy thing called hate sex? Is it really as good as it sounds? C'mon, don't be shy. I won't judge.


  1. "and bing, bang, boom it's over." I just laughed so hard when I read that.
    As for hate sex, well, no comments. To each their own, huh?

  2. Depends on much but fast and furious can be great fun:) options are good.

  3. Only if you REALLY CAN check your emotions at the door.
    Which isn't really too healthy in the long run. One doesn't want to be having sex without feeling as a habit.

    As with so many other things, moderation is key.

  4. To each their own, but once my feelings about someone turn for the worse as it seems that girl's had, I don't want them speaking to me much less touching me. And if I still cared, I know I couldn't check those emotions at the door. I'd be a hot mess!

  5. Yeah, CC, guess you can't knock it till ya try it!

    True, Barb, AND a great workout too! ;)

    I agree Shannon..a fling every now and then is fine and sometimes very much needed, but I think it would be hard to continually hook up with an ex withouth feeling something and hoping you'd get back together.

    Kim, I concur...I would be a CRAZY hot mess. I don't know how some girls do it!

  6. Depends on how the relationship ended and the emotions involved... but if you both want just that... it is PERFECT! I mean, if oyu guys had good sex yo begin with! :-)