Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Are you a girl's-girl (or a guy's-guy)?

So I stopped writing about The Bachelor because no one really seemed into it (guess I didn't give you guys enough credit!), but I'm going to reference it one more time because it relates to a topic I want to address. As most of you probably know, Jake picked Vienna--the most unliked girl in the house. Tenley's bubble gum sweet personality totally grated on my nerves, so I'm OK with his choice, but there's something about a woman who isn't a girl's-girl that I don't particularly trust.

I hate how these types of girls tell themselves that the reason other girls don't like them is because they are jealous--that's what Vienna's family said to Jake when the issue came up. Please. No one is jealous of you or your stankass weave, Vienna. I know a girl whose mom I'm pretty certain reassures her on a daily basis that everyone is envious of her. I guess it never occured to her that she is friendless because she's um...boring. And socially inept.

Some women are just a little awkward around other females, or get along better with men for whatever reason, and that's fine. I'm not lumping everyone into the Vienna category. However, I'm a total girl's-girl. So much in fact, that one of my must-haves for a guy I'm dating has always been that he's a guy's-guy. (It's like right up there with how he treats his mom.) There's just something sexy about it.

A lot of times when I'm out with my boyfriend and his friends, I'll go home early and he'll carry on partying with the boys. Some of my friends don't understand why it doesn't bother me when he does that, but honestly it would be weird to me if he didn't want to. Have you seen the movie I Love You Man? Lord, I'd hate to be one of those brides who had like ten bridesmaids, while my soon-to-be husband had to ask third cousins and guys he hadn't talked to in over a year to be groomsmen. Awk-ward. An.y.way.

Tell me: Are you a girl's-girl, or a guy's-guy? If not, does it bother you?

9 comments:

  1. I would say I am a girls-girl. I love some girl bonding. My husband is definitely a guy's guy. After being together for almost eight years, I have become really close with his friends, and have spent a lot of time with guys, but I am still a girls-girl. Unfortunately a lot of my girl friends have moved away, and I could definitely use some new close girl friends! I am the same way about going home early and my husband staying out with his friends. A lot of people used to think I was crazy because I wasn't the typical controlling girlfriend "making" my guy leave early with me. I love that he is a guy's guy!

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  2. I'm definitely a girl's-girl. I have some really close guy friends too, but if I had to pick, I'd pick the girls to hang-out with. I totally know what you mean by a guy's-guy being sexy. I have it on my list of must-haves too! Although, a guy's-guy who has no idea how to treat girls is a turn-off.

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  3. I think is kind of depends on where you are in your life. In high school and college I was definitely more comfortable around guys and most of my friends were guys. But now that I am married most of my friends are girls. It would seem odd to me if I was always going out with guys now that I am married...I don't know...

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  4. I'm definitely a guys guy. I think it's vital for men to spend time doing 'men' things together, just as it's important for women to feel free to do their own thing together, it all makes for a sounder relationship if you are with someone long term.
    Having said all of that, I enjoy the company of women just as my wife enjoys the company of men. It's all about striking a balance and not caging the other half I guess.

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  5. I'm definitely a girls-girl, so much to the point that i'm in need of male friends because i'm also a guys-girl. i too also get annoyed with ppl who claim that ppl don't like them because they're jealous. i don't know if you follow the real housewives of orange county, but if you do, then that whole simon thinking vicky is jealous of his controlling insecure behind makes me wanna vomit! i just want to scream, "attention crazies! nobody likes you because you're not likeable!"
    end rant

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  6. I'm definitely a girl's-girl and would appreciate it if my boyfriend was more of a guy's-guy rather than a guy and girl's-guy. You catch my drift??? I feel awkward just randomly hanging with dudes without my boyfriend around, so I expect him to not want to hang out with other chicks without me around. It may sound a little shallow, but I was raised by women and I love the bonding experiences that I have with my mom and girlfriends. I'm not too fond of sharing those same type of stories with my boyfriend about his other female friends. Very different post, love it!

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  7. Yeah, I see what you guys are saying...I do think things change based on where you are in your life. (But, I also think being a girls-girl is something you kinda naturally have in you.) I really don't have guy friends (well, straight ones) in NYC, but I do love hanging with my guy buds from high school when I'm home. I wouldn't mind if my bf hung out with girl friends, but he doesn't really have any, so I don't know, I can't even really picture it!

    And Nadette, I TOTALLY agree with you! Those housewives are NUTS! Vicky is a girl's-girl while a lot of the other women can barely stand to be apart from their husbands for more than a few hours. And yeah, no one's jealous of you or your less-than-ideal relationship, Simon!

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  8. You can be both right? I think i'm both. I adapt to whatever crowd I'm surrounded by.

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  9. I'd think I'm a guy's girl. Love sports, love crude jokes, hate shopping. But as long as I make the effort to get along with both, I find that's all that matters.

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