tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post2903687427920018955..comments2023-11-14T03:13:51.407-08:00Comments on firednfabulous: The older I get, the more I have to ask people out. Weird.Ellenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00425749875167877996noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post-57255179234960013042009-12-04T09:59:45.849-08:002009-12-04T09:59:45.849-08:00Haha I love this post! So true! @Woman of a Certai...Haha I love this post! So true! @Woman of a Certain Age explained the situation beautifully too!Femba Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14012651816492055031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post-69929260761777116072009-12-03T18:36:03.777-08:002009-12-03T18:36:03.777-08:00Not weird Mary Allen, the guy is thinking that you...Not weird Mary Allen, the guy is thinking that you like him.flipisatriphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15473210829501048546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post-60645507832588224152009-12-03T06:44:45.428-08:002009-12-03T06:44:45.428-08:00i TOTALLY agree with this, and have actually talke...i TOTALLY agree with this, and have actually talked to friends about it. it is SO like a date. and just like WOACA (is that right?) said, it is more intimidating to me to ask a girl to hang out than a guy. new friends are tricky, especially if you don't meet them through another friend-you have to be on your best behavior for sometimes several months! then you can let slip a "that's what she said" or "i love 80's songs remixed into techno..." and see how they react.<br /><br />what about if you want to be friends with a guy but not date him. that is extra tough for me! i love having guy friends, but sometimes i feel like if you ask them too much to hang out, they think you like them and then they get all weird. is this just me?<br /><br />this "first date" sounds like it was a success and i am proud that you are already at the "i love hanky pankys!" stage of your friendship!!smaryalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00146715617451686968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post-31520368661381646262009-12-02T17:13:08.885-08:002009-12-02T17:13:08.885-08:00I think that beef stew looks awesome!
Sometimes i...I think that beef stew looks awesome!<br /><br />Sometimes it definitely feels like i have to pull teeth to get any of my law school friends to do anything. Except my roommate, he's usually the one dragging me all over the city.flipisatriphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15473210829501048546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6670679032484051596.post-2895579091111649852009-12-02T12:40:52.510-08:002009-12-02T12:40:52.510-08:00YES. I have always been more nervous in asking a n...YES. I have always been more nervous in asking a new female friend if she wants to hang out than in asking out a guy. And it's totally been compounded since finishing school and moving to NYC, for the reasons you mention. I think it's even worse in NYC because it's often uncomfortable/inconvenient to invite someone over to your apartment (if my girl-date lives in Brooklyn, that's quite a jaunt for her--and I have no TV or table, so it's hard to just "hang out" in a casual way).<br /><br />I feel like if I'm going out with a guy, well, I know how to handle that. In my single days, I always knew that if a guy didn't like me, it wasn't necessarily a reflection on *me*--it could be that I'm not his "type," or said something that's a no-no in his dating book, or whatever. But with a potential friend, the fear of rejection feels greater because if it doesn't go well, it's really just plain old me that's being rejected, you know? Also, I can "fake it" better on a date, because I'm in tease-flirt mode. With a potential friend, I'm going to be more down-to-earth...which means that I can't mask my "flaws" with "accidentally" brushing against her arm or flipping my hair.Autumn Whitefield-Madranohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379314479257695986noreply@blogger.com